I am being hinted that my dad's mom forever held her children accountable for each thing they did wrong, one small thing at age 3 and there life was over.  Well, that sounds like an attempt to be glamorous and put people against each other to see who's best.

The people monitoring me in private don't care if they are right or wrong in obvious ways.

My dad seems to have problems admitting what is right and wrong.  He gets on a roll emotionally and doesn't care if he knocks people out.

The people monitoring me in private keep indicating my dad's mom is threatening people, mainly the older lady I like, to do what she says "or else" and it involves ruining my life.

The people monitoring me in private keep ruining me acting like someone I don't wanna is talking to me and affecting me so I have to fight or live with it.